Sometimes it feels like we're all so busy trying to find ways to be offended by other's words and actions that we don't even hear each other anymore. Sometimes is feels like we are all so full of complaints that we don't have any room in our lives to worry about other people's pain.
I'm loathe to say I'm actually offended, but even well intentioned friends and family members can say things that are annoying and upsetting. This is going in this blog mainly because I stand by my opinion that my weight loss is mine and mine alone. Just because it's something you notice outwardly doesn't really give you the right to decide whether or not I'm allowed to put on a couple of pounds.
Word of advice, though. Taking a break seems like a great idea after you've lost 100 lbs, but getting back on the wagon is really, really difficult.
Btw, it is made so much easier (sarcasm alert!) when you over hear conversations about your weight and such or when a friend makes a comment right to you face.
Also, using the excuse that you only care because I (we) seem happier only means you have no idea what's been going on lately. Bullshit that it's about our health or happiness. I don't see you smacking that candy bar out of a skinny person's hand and saying it's about their health and happiness. I still believe people are more driven by what's aesthetically pleasing than really caring about their health.
The fact is, we're eating pretty well, just not perfectly. We're exercising every day. Losing weight is an all or nothing commitment and if you aren't going to count calories and commit to reducing them from previous eating habits, then you can be eating healthy, exercising, and still not lose weight. Some people just have to eat better to drop lbs. For others, it is a 100% commitment of time and energy. This is the exhaustion that led us to our current "break". We treat ourselves too much when we are out with friends, but no one can see how meager we eat at home. It's just not balancing out, but that's still our choices, not yours to make.
Ooooh....I would love to hear "the rest of the story" to that particular rant!
ReplyDeleteI agree - people (I include myself) do not care about health, only what looks good. I know I don't care about health because every time I get to a weight that I like I stop trying to eat healthy - then the yo-yo begins.
I am striving to change my thinking, but it is hard.
I should be able to eat pizza without guilt - even if it is my own guilt. You know what I mean?
Good luck with your current "break"!
It's hard to keep going when you feel good. I know I've got more I can lose, but I also feel great which makes getting back on the wagon more difficult than just knowing I should.
ReplyDeleteBut no one has the right to tell you that you can't gain weight or eat that piece of pizza. It really bugs me when people think they can! Why is this not considered rude? Some people will agree with me that it is rude, but your friends would never seriously tell you that you are a jerk or ugly... but they will be completely serious when they tell you not to gain weight because you look great, get back on the band wagon. And, of course, part of it is the wording or the attitude with which things are said.
Oh, I don't want to sound petty, but I'm working this whole thing in my head about the way people treat each other...ha ha. Why can't we just be nice, let it go, and keep it to ourselves? (Obviously, I can't handle doing those things either!)