Yeah, this is kind of becoming that place where I vent the difference between beauty and value, because it has been my belief that people value you if you are beautiful and in the end, even those who say they value you because of the person you are will end up relating it to beauty they perceive.

http://jazzylittledrops.tumblr.com/post/48118645174/why-doves-real-beauty-sketches-video-makes-me

I watched the Dove video, then saw a link to that and loved it because parts of it addressed things I thought.  Other parts brought up things I didn't even think about.  Love to be challenged.

I know it's easy to compliment or notice appearance before anything else.  It's surface.  It's convenient.  In some cases, a person I didn't immediately think was gorgeous will become so as I get to know them.  In other cases, of course, someone will seem attractive until they open their mouth.  What we think about someone's appearance can be affected by what we know of their personality, but there is definitely too narrow a view on what would be considered immediately attractive to begin with.

The issue not mentioned in that article is that those people met the person they described.  What if one of them had been a nasty beast?  Would her sketch have come out the way it did?  One wonders.  Anyway, read the article.  It has a link to the video in it.  Watch it.  Think beyond the initial shallow surface view...