We all have trouble drinking enough water. Soda, water with crystal light packets, gatorade, yes, but clean water to flush out the system efficiently? No. It's not just me. Jane complains about a cramp or an ailment and half the time I say "drink more water" because half the time the symptoms she describes sound like dehydration. Scott has been doing better since his kidney stone, but he's starting to drink tons of soda again. Me, I just don't drink anything. I forget.
Well, Monday, Jane asked (out of the blue) if we could have a water drinking contest for the day. I brought Scott into it and suggested we each count our ounces each day. At the end of the day, a winner would be noted and at the end of the week, the one who won the most days would get to pick the family movie. Wow... water consumption! It's been much better. Why didn't we think of this sooner?
Thursday, May 30, 2013
Monday, May 6, 2013
Bunch of info...
I am, by no means, saying that the way I eat (when dieting) is healthy. Probably not, but I stumbled over to Health.com this morning and found a few things that support things I have been saying either here on my blog or in real life.
27 Mistakes Healthy People Make got my attention mostly because of my rants about how people think skinny means healthy. Even this title says so. I sort of wish it said 27 Mistakes "Healthy" People Make. Of course, this is just the beginning. #1 - buying organic. People think buying organic is healthier. "Buying organic is wise for certain foods, such as beef or strawberries, but it doesn't make much difference for others, like avocados or eggs.
And don't assume that all organic foods are healthier than non-organic options, or that organic equals healthy. Organic choices are usually pricier, for one thing. And organic high-calorie, high-fat granola bars and sugary cereals are just as bad for you as the non-organic version."
My note: Buying organic is a bloated politically correct thing we are supposed to to if we care about the environment. I learned that "organic" as often an advertising ploy as tainted as anything else. Example: Generally, cows raised for milk are given antibiotics constantly. True. Organic means some governing agency has made sure the cows have never had antibiotics or other medication. True. Then I saw a farmer who sells his milk and cheese at a farmer's market because he does not qualify as either organic or non-organic. Why? Because he does not distribute antibiotics to his animals *unless they are sick*. Humane. He wanted to become organic because, he claims, he realizes the milk is better without those antibiotics and growth hormones, but he also could not stand by and watch his animals die because they caught something and in order to be certified organic, you have to just let them die. Wow. Well, we don't eat much beef in this family and we mainly buy soy milk because of allergies to cow's milk so cheese is my only worry and...well... that's processed and such in a way that I can't justify "organic" cheese.
Besides, organic products always cost more. Someone is making more money by slapping that label on there. I realize that it's supposed to be because it costs more to raise things this way (you lose more crops, more cows, whatever and those have to be replaced) and it's a simple supply and demand issue - it will continue to cost more as popularity for it rises.
I won't go through these one by one, but they list a bunch of things I know are true. Don't skimp on sleep. Socialize more (that was interesting, but I do see the value. Like sleep, our mental health affects our physical health.)
Supplements - I heard this pyramid scheme which sells diet shakes so that it's "legit" saying that you should never take supplements because your body doesn't digest it and use it. It simply goes through and you poop it out. Classy. Also, wrong. Your body uses what it can. If there is too much of something, your liver and kidneys are there to get rid of it. Granted, this article points out you can still be taking too much, but I think we sometimes forget that our bodies are efficient machines.
Germaphobes (slide #8) - But evidence also suggests that some germ exposure could steer the immune system away from allergies, and that an overly sterile environment might be bad.
I'm quite sure I did a post about this before. Your immune system gets stronger by fighting things off. Yeah, take precautions, but don't overdo!
#9 You over- or underdo alternative remedies
Agreed. I believe both are very useful, but so many I talk to seem to think it's one or the other. Don't discount the herbal remedies, but don't believe whatever the doctor is selling without question, either.
#13 - calorie free sodas. yeah, it's my weakness. I know I did better when I cut way back on them, but even when losing weight, I did have a little every day. My guilty pleasure. I defend the fact that people should remember that if they can narrow down just one thing that makes the whole diet thing bearable, then find a way to work that in. Love sweets? Allow yourself a piece of Extra's dessert gum or one can of soda per day. I'm sure we shouldn't have it at all to be truly healthy, but for me this is what helps me make it through. My husband loves salty chips so we buy Special K snacks or Baked Lays. Low in salt, but just enough to get him through from time to time.
#14 - water... they are talking about drinking too much, but I admit, I don't drink enough. This amused me. The other day I was told that our body only recognizes straight water as water. "It thinks" anything else is food. Personifying is one of those annoying things people do. The body is a machine. Cells, fat, and the liver don't think, they simply process. I know that you can't count soda or Gatorade as your daily water intake, but your body doesn't think my coffee is food. I also know if I drink 16 oz of coffee, my body does not get 16 oz of water from that.
#16 - you think you know more than your doc.
Sometimes you do. Yeah, I think some people are looking at things on the internet and believing what they read because it sounds good (or bad, sometimes) but they don't look at the supporting facts that prove it's wrong. People who don't immunize at all are following a trend that seems informed, but in reality, there is way way way more information showing why you should. They don't bother to research why they question, they just think they are being informed.
Meanwhile, we've had diagnoses from a doctor that is complete nonsense. We look at symptoms on the internet and realize the doc made the diagnosis based solely on weight, not on symptoms. A person with sleep apnea is often fatigued, snores, doesn't breathe in the middle of the night, etc, etc. Scott had anxiety over our house fire and the doctor decided the anxiety was due to lack of sleep which was due to apnea. Later, the same doctor decided he needed diabetic medication because he was not told about a blood test that day and ate a blueberry bagel before the blood test which spiked the blood once. Since then, his levels have been well below normal - below the numbers that have had other family members taken off their diabetic meds, yet he is still on them. I get frustrated because he listens to these doctors too much. I think it's a balance. Listen to your doctor, but it's okay to question them as well.
#17 - You think healthy packaging equals healthy food.
Ha, so true! Healthy food is a marketing ploy and it is working because people buy into these things without research or question! I saw a documentary about food and I loved this one guy who pointed out that he could sell you a bag of sugar that says "fat free!" but it will still make you fat. People don't realize that while there are good fats and bad fats, both should be limited, but cutting out all bad fats won't make you thin, by itself. You also have to simply eat less. You feel hungry sometimes, sure, but you have to just eat less. Fat free isn't helpful unless you still count calories or something.
#19 - you still don't eat your fruits and veggies.
Oh, thank god! It's not just me! I mean, I try every day, but....
$24 - You don't read nutrition labels.
I do, now, and I have to say it is eye opening! Often, I'll be at a party or lunch and hear people say things that I know aren't true about certain foods because I've read the label and obviously they haven't. Kashi go lean might have more fiber, but the "go lean" is deceiving because Eggo waffles and most cereals we buy are lower in both calories and fat than Kashi products... so what are they comparing it to? go lean from what? A pound of bacon for breakfast? Yes. Leaner than Cheerios? Nope.
Okay, that's enough blathering for today. I just realized the time and I need to start my other tasks for the day...
27 Mistakes Healthy People Make got my attention mostly because of my rants about how people think skinny means healthy. Even this title says so. I sort of wish it said 27 Mistakes "Healthy" People Make. Of course, this is just the beginning. #1 - buying organic. People think buying organic is healthier. "Buying organic is wise for certain foods, such as beef or strawberries, but it doesn't make much difference for others, like avocados or eggs.
And don't assume that all organic foods are healthier than non-organic options, or that organic equals healthy. Organic choices are usually pricier, for one thing. And organic high-calorie, high-fat granola bars and sugary cereals are just as bad for you as the non-organic version."
My note: Buying organic is a bloated politically correct thing we are supposed to to if we care about the environment. I learned that "organic" as often an advertising ploy as tainted as anything else. Example: Generally, cows raised for milk are given antibiotics constantly. True. Organic means some governing agency has made sure the cows have never had antibiotics or other medication. True. Then I saw a farmer who sells his milk and cheese at a farmer's market because he does not qualify as either organic or non-organic. Why? Because he does not distribute antibiotics to his animals *unless they are sick*. Humane. He wanted to become organic because, he claims, he realizes the milk is better without those antibiotics and growth hormones, but he also could not stand by and watch his animals die because they caught something and in order to be certified organic, you have to just let them die. Wow. Well, we don't eat much beef in this family and we mainly buy soy milk because of allergies to cow's milk so cheese is my only worry and...well... that's processed and such in a way that I can't justify "organic" cheese.
Besides, organic products always cost more. Someone is making more money by slapping that label on there. I realize that it's supposed to be because it costs more to raise things this way (you lose more crops, more cows, whatever and those have to be replaced) and it's a simple supply and demand issue - it will continue to cost more as popularity for it rises.
I won't go through these one by one, but they list a bunch of things I know are true. Don't skimp on sleep. Socialize more (that was interesting, but I do see the value. Like sleep, our mental health affects our physical health.)
Supplements - I heard this pyramid scheme which sells diet shakes so that it's "legit" saying that you should never take supplements because your body doesn't digest it and use it. It simply goes through and you poop it out. Classy. Also, wrong. Your body uses what it can. If there is too much of something, your liver and kidneys are there to get rid of it. Granted, this article points out you can still be taking too much, but I think we sometimes forget that our bodies are efficient machines.
Germaphobes (slide #8) - But evidence also suggests that some germ exposure could steer the immune system away from allergies, and that an overly sterile environment might be bad.
I'm quite sure I did a post about this before. Your immune system gets stronger by fighting things off. Yeah, take precautions, but don't overdo!
#9 You over- or underdo alternative remedies
Agreed. I believe both are very useful, but so many I talk to seem to think it's one or the other. Don't discount the herbal remedies, but don't believe whatever the doctor is selling without question, either.
#13 - calorie free sodas. yeah, it's my weakness. I know I did better when I cut way back on them, but even when losing weight, I did have a little every day. My guilty pleasure. I defend the fact that people should remember that if they can narrow down just one thing that makes the whole diet thing bearable, then find a way to work that in. Love sweets? Allow yourself a piece of Extra's dessert gum or one can of soda per day. I'm sure we shouldn't have it at all to be truly healthy, but for me this is what helps me make it through. My husband loves salty chips so we buy Special K snacks or Baked Lays. Low in salt, but just enough to get him through from time to time.
#14 - water... they are talking about drinking too much, but I admit, I don't drink enough. This amused me. The other day I was told that our body only recognizes straight water as water. "It thinks" anything else is food. Personifying is one of those annoying things people do. The body is a machine. Cells, fat, and the liver don't think, they simply process. I know that you can't count soda or Gatorade as your daily water intake, but your body doesn't think my coffee is food. I also know if I drink 16 oz of coffee, my body does not get 16 oz of water from that.
#16 - you think you know more than your doc.
Sometimes you do. Yeah, I think some people are looking at things on the internet and believing what they read because it sounds good (or bad, sometimes) but they don't look at the supporting facts that prove it's wrong. People who don't immunize at all are following a trend that seems informed, but in reality, there is way way way more information showing why you should. They don't bother to research why they question, they just think they are being informed.
Meanwhile, we've had diagnoses from a doctor that is complete nonsense. We look at symptoms on the internet and realize the doc made the diagnosis based solely on weight, not on symptoms. A person with sleep apnea is often fatigued, snores, doesn't breathe in the middle of the night, etc, etc. Scott had anxiety over our house fire and the doctor decided the anxiety was due to lack of sleep which was due to apnea. Later, the same doctor decided he needed diabetic medication because he was not told about a blood test that day and ate a blueberry bagel before the blood test which spiked the blood once. Since then, his levels have been well below normal - below the numbers that have had other family members taken off their diabetic meds, yet he is still on them. I get frustrated because he listens to these doctors too much. I think it's a balance. Listen to your doctor, but it's okay to question them as well.
#17 - You think healthy packaging equals healthy food.
Ha, so true! Healthy food is a marketing ploy and it is working because people buy into these things without research or question! I saw a documentary about food and I loved this one guy who pointed out that he could sell you a bag of sugar that says "fat free!" but it will still make you fat. People don't realize that while there are good fats and bad fats, both should be limited, but cutting out all bad fats won't make you thin, by itself. You also have to simply eat less. You feel hungry sometimes, sure, but you have to just eat less. Fat free isn't helpful unless you still count calories or something.
#19 - you still don't eat your fruits and veggies.
Oh, thank god! It's not just me! I mean, I try every day, but....
$24 - You don't read nutrition labels.
I do, now, and I have to say it is eye opening! Often, I'll be at a party or lunch and hear people say things that I know aren't true about certain foods because I've read the label and obviously they haven't. Kashi go lean might have more fiber, but the "go lean" is deceiving because Eggo waffles and most cereals we buy are lower in both calories and fat than Kashi products... so what are they comparing it to? go lean from what? A pound of bacon for breakfast? Yes. Leaner than Cheerios? Nope.
Okay, that's enough blathering for today. I just realized the time and I need to start my other tasks for the day...
Monday, April 29, 2013
Boring
Nothing new this week except wondering what I'm doing anyway. I want to research aspects of foods and dieting, but in the end everything that is good for you has some chemical, genetic alteration, or political issue to make them bad if you want to be aware of your body and the world. Last week I heard we are bad people if we eat bananas.
Can't win.
I did catch this special on PBS about exercise I found very interesting.
General update: Did okay this week, but not fantastic. Exercised a little more during the week and that felt nice, but did too much leg stuff so my legs felt weary by evening and my arms did not. Then yesterday, I stepped funny on edge of sidewalk and twisted my ankle badly enough that I couldn't just walk it off. I hate being clumsy. I believed this one doctor who said if I lost weight, I'd be less clumsy. Well, I did not fall for the first 70 lbs I lost, but in the last few years, I've fallen a bunch of times so obviously it's not just weight that makes a gal clumsy.
I don't like being all negative here a lot, but I feel like so much is blamed on weight... problems skinny people have too, but they say it's worse for fat people because of this and that. Recently the governor threw out a statistic about how obesity costs the health care system billions of dollars and that's like 70% of problems. I looked online. The only thing I can calculate is that he got his stats based on obesity coming up as one cause in anything. Cancer can be linked to a million things, but because some cancers MAY be related to obesity, it's considered one of the things that increases health care. The fibroids I had are not completely understood, but on research they say it can be caused by a, b, c, d, e, obesity, f, and g (in descending order of likelihood) and yet that would come up as a reason for rising costs in health care.
I'm not trying to defend obesity, but I still believe people's arguments for being rude are based on ascetics, not health care because they will overlook other unhealthy activity by anyone except smokers and fat people. They are, obviously, terrible human beings simply because they smoke or are obese. You don't know my life.
Can't win.
I did catch this special on PBS about exercise I found very interesting.
General update: Did okay this week, but not fantastic. Exercised a little more during the week and that felt nice, but did too much leg stuff so my legs felt weary by evening and my arms did not. Then yesterday, I stepped funny on edge of sidewalk and twisted my ankle badly enough that I couldn't just walk it off. I hate being clumsy. I believed this one doctor who said if I lost weight, I'd be less clumsy. Well, I did not fall for the first 70 lbs I lost, but in the last few years, I've fallen a bunch of times so obviously it's not just weight that makes a gal clumsy.
I don't like being all negative here a lot, but I feel like so much is blamed on weight... problems skinny people have too, but they say it's worse for fat people because of this and that. Recently the governor threw out a statistic about how obesity costs the health care system billions of dollars and that's like 70% of problems. I looked online. The only thing I can calculate is that he got his stats based on obesity coming up as one cause in anything. Cancer can be linked to a million things, but because some cancers MAY be related to obesity, it's considered one of the things that increases health care. The fibroids I had are not completely understood, but on research they say it can be caused by a, b, c, d, e, obesity, f, and g (in descending order of likelihood) and yet that would come up as a reason for rising costs in health care.
I'm not trying to defend obesity, but I still believe people's arguments for being rude are based on ascetics, not health care because they will overlook other unhealthy activity by anyone except smokers and fat people. They are, obviously, terrible human beings simply because they smoke or are obese. You don't know my life.
Monday, April 22, 2013
Stop caring
Well, things are a little better right now. Suggestion was made - which reminded me - that I need to research my foods again. I think I need to see the fat and calories of the restaurant foods of the foods I should not be eating to remind myself why I should NOT be eating it.
Although, it really has been better, even over the weekend which has been the biggest struggle.
Thinking about food really is something that will get you every time. It's so easy to find an excuse to grab fast food. One thing I am reminding myself is if I throw a chicken breast on the George Foreman grill, it takes 8 minutes to cook. If you hit a drive thru window, it takes about 20 minutes. The last two times we stopped at Carl's Jr., it took them 10 minutes to make our meals. They have a lovely turkey burger, but the chicken is still better...
Jane's Lacrosse schedule is another way to make an easy excuse, but we did okay with that last week as well. Getting into this whole swing of things is not what I expected. Karate and swimming parents are SO different to team sports parents. Somehow I'm the outsider just waiting for the school day to end 'cause I don't give a crap about their piddly conversations again. Yay. Does that sound stupid? Or like I think they are stupid? Not my intention. We're just different people and sometimes I feel like they think that because they are skinny and active, it means they are different in a better way.
Stop caring.
I'll try.
Tuesday, April 2, 2013
What to do?
What do you do when you realize that you are back at the beginning?
We're still walking every day; great. I know I've chastised myself a lot on my eating behaviours, but they aren't quite as bad as they were, I don't think. I eat really bad once or twice a week, but I was eating badly for every meal, every day, with unhealthy snacks in between. Now, at least, I eat totally healthy Monday through Friday from morning until dinner. Last week, Jane was out of school for a week and I took her out to lunch twice, then we had our bad habits weekend and I felt like such total crap Sunday night - I'm still recovering! I know I could have eaten that way every day 5 years ago and been just fine.
I shouldn't chastise the 'him' in this program, but I am so incredibly frustrated! Several evenings lately, I've cooked a healthy dinner. He goes back for seconds and thirds; what was once our leftovers for a second night or lunches the next day which means the next day, new food.
The logistics here is that when you go on a diet, we know people say a concern when you're on a tight budget is the cost of healthy foods. I totally agree, but if you moderate the amounts of food and stop buying junk food, it sort of evens itself out.
Now, we haven't been eating fantastic for a while, but we've still been doing okay. After last grocery trip, I was a little upset about the bill and have been monitoring the household ever since. This made me notice that 'he's eating healthy foods, sure, but having large amounts. This is what led to buying cheap, fatty foods the first time around!
And I'm having flash backs. There were so many times I tried to eat healthier - not necessarily offering half a plate of veggies and a tiny serving of meat, but I would only prepare a decent size meal for each of us instead of enough for a small army. (This was an adjustment for us both coming from households of 7-8 kids...) If I prepared only that much, he'd go back and make something else to eat. Often in smelled good and I'd eat it too, bad on me, but I don't do that now. I just stew in frustration because the grocery bill goes up and the only way I know to bring it back down is to fall back to those things you can buy that are more junk for less money.
I'm also seeing that there are lots of nights when we end up eating out because I'm tired or he won't help me make a decision on dinner until fast food comes into the list of possibilities. I'm just exhausted. I begged him last night to help me make good choices. I mentioned that I was really tired and had a headache (this is not a common complaint so I don't think I deserved to be sidelined. Even on the rare occasion I have a headache, I usually don't mention it and I try not to act like it.) I tried making dinner and getting feedback from him about chicken or spaghetti and he sat there like a bump on the log until I asked where the coupons went. I was looking for shopping coupons I needed to put away, but he finally moved, grabbed the restaurant coupons, and started participating in the choices. I chose something I happened to know was pretty okay, but the habit of going out to eat HAS to stop!
Since we started this whole venture, he has gotten a new job and a raise so now we can afford to go out more than we could and frankly I can still afford to buy that healthy food in higher portions I mentioned above, but it's not like we're so well off that those choices don't end up affecting other things we can buy. We did frugal for so long, that now I could use a new vacuum, washer, dryer, and I recently splurged on a broom, but now that we could put money aside, we find ourselves eating out more. How can I win?
I'll give up flavor sometimes for a simple chicken tender and salad meal. He doesn't flat out complain, but he makes it clear that it's too much green, not enough food, and not enough flavor by drowning in sauces, eating all the leftovers, then poking around the fridge for something else to eat.
Sideways observation: You see those people on TV sometimes who are so large and they don't get out of bed. Someone brings them 15 cheeseburgers just for lunch and that person gets blamed for enabling. Some other day, you see some couple and she's saying "he calls me fat and tells me what to eat" - usually you find out those weren't his exact words, but he claims he is just trying to help her, lovingly, and the response is typically "you don't tell someone you love that they are fat. You don't imply it or hint at it." Because that doesn't help. They don't feel like doing something about it if you say something negative. So what to do? According to psychologists as well as the public response I've observed on those lame "healthy living" newcasts and articles I've been reading online; we don't tell they they are fat, don't point out their bad habits, and don't enable them. Seriously. That's what I am trying to do, but it's affecting ME. We're married. It's bullshit to say that you have to do it for yourself if you're in a relationship with someone with BAD HABITS. It's unrealistic and just continues the problem. There's got to be a solution, but I can't seem to find it.
I just feel like it's a major regression. I'm trying and trying to make improvements, but I am met with grumpy resilience until I concede or, if I'm determined enough not to concede, I have to drum up the strength to face it again tomorrow and every day after. It's what made me give up on asking him to go walking until he had a health scare and it's what made cooking for myself difficult for years. It's also what makes me depressed and tired all the time.
We're still walking every day; great. I know I've chastised myself a lot on my eating behaviours, but they aren't quite as bad as they were, I don't think. I eat really bad once or twice a week, but I was eating badly for every meal, every day, with unhealthy snacks in between. Now, at least, I eat totally healthy Monday through Friday from morning until dinner. Last week, Jane was out of school for a week and I took her out to lunch twice, then we had our bad habits weekend and I felt like such total crap Sunday night - I'm still recovering! I know I could have eaten that way every day 5 years ago and been just fine.
I shouldn't chastise the 'him' in this program, but I am so incredibly frustrated! Several evenings lately, I've cooked a healthy dinner. He goes back for seconds and thirds; what was once our leftovers for a second night or lunches the next day which means the next day, new food.
The logistics here is that when you go on a diet, we know people say a concern when you're on a tight budget is the cost of healthy foods. I totally agree, but if you moderate the amounts of food and stop buying junk food, it sort of evens itself out.
Now, we haven't been eating fantastic for a while, but we've still been doing okay. After last grocery trip, I was a little upset about the bill and have been monitoring the household ever since. This made me notice that 'he's eating healthy foods, sure, but having large amounts. This is what led to buying cheap, fatty foods the first time around!
And I'm having flash backs. There were so many times I tried to eat healthier - not necessarily offering half a plate of veggies and a tiny serving of meat, but I would only prepare a decent size meal for each of us instead of enough for a small army. (This was an adjustment for us both coming from households of 7-8 kids...) If I prepared only that much, he'd go back and make something else to eat. Often in smelled good and I'd eat it too, bad on me, but I don't do that now. I just stew in frustration because the grocery bill goes up and the only way I know to bring it back down is to fall back to those things you can buy that are more junk for less money.
I'm also seeing that there are lots of nights when we end up eating out because I'm tired or he won't help me make a decision on dinner until fast food comes into the list of possibilities. I'm just exhausted. I begged him last night to help me make good choices. I mentioned that I was really tired and had a headache (this is not a common complaint so I don't think I deserved to be sidelined. Even on the rare occasion I have a headache, I usually don't mention it and I try not to act like it.) I tried making dinner and getting feedback from him about chicken or spaghetti and he sat there like a bump on the log until I asked where the coupons went. I was looking for shopping coupons I needed to put away, but he finally moved, grabbed the restaurant coupons, and started participating in the choices. I chose something I happened to know was pretty okay, but the habit of going out to eat HAS to stop!
Since we started this whole venture, he has gotten a new job and a raise so now we can afford to go out more than we could and frankly I can still afford to buy that healthy food in higher portions I mentioned above, but it's not like we're so well off that those choices don't end up affecting other things we can buy. We did frugal for so long, that now I could use a new vacuum, washer, dryer, and I recently splurged on a broom, but now that we could put money aside, we find ourselves eating out more. How can I win?
I'll give up flavor sometimes for a simple chicken tender and salad meal. He doesn't flat out complain, but he makes it clear that it's too much green, not enough food, and not enough flavor by drowning in sauces, eating all the leftovers, then poking around the fridge for something else to eat.
Sideways observation: You see those people on TV sometimes who are so large and they don't get out of bed. Someone brings them 15 cheeseburgers just for lunch and that person gets blamed for enabling. Some other day, you see some couple and she's saying "he calls me fat and tells me what to eat" - usually you find out those weren't his exact words, but he claims he is just trying to help her, lovingly, and the response is typically "you don't tell someone you love that they are fat. You don't imply it or hint at it." Because that doesn't help. They don't feel like doing something about it if you say something negative. So what to do? According to psychologists as well as the public response I've observed on those lame "healthy living" newcasts and articles I've been reading online; we don't tell they they are fat, don't point out their bad habits, and don't enable them. Seriously. That's what I am trying to do, but it's affecting ME. We're married. It's bullshit to say that you have to do it for yourself if you're in a relationship with someone with BAD HABITS. It's unrealistic and just continues the problem. There's got to be a solution, but I can't seem to find it.
I just feel like it's a major regression. I'm trying and trying to make improvements, but I am met with grumpy resilience until I concede or, if I'm determined enough not to concede, I have to drum up the strength to face it again tomorrow and every day after. It's what made me give up on asking him to go walking until he had a health scare and it's what made cooking for myself difficult for years. It's also what makes me depressed and tired all the time.
Monday, March 18, 2013
Only the good
Wonder how I can merge all my blogs together. I kind of want to just do one blog for everything, but I separated myself too much. Oh well.
So the only thing I have to say in what is becoming my habits blog is I no longer count how many days since my last cigarette. That's a nice step in quitting... the day you realize you've lost count. That was me, yesterday. Feels like a relief. I'm thinking about it a lot already today, but at least I can say "Hey, for a couple of days I forgot to count."
And we all survived. Mostly. Just some squabbles and lost tempers, but I'm not entirely convinced that is only about the smoking.
So the only thing I have to say in what is becoming my habits blog is I no longer count how many days since my last cigarette. That's a nice step in quitting... the day you realize you've lost count. That was me, yesterday. Feels like a relief. I'm thinking about it a lot already today, but at least I can say "Hey, for a couple of days I forgot to count."
And we all survived. Mostly. Just some squabbles and lost tempers, but I'm not entirely convinced that is only about the smoking.
Monday, March 4, 2013
Smoking still okay, but not great. Had a couple over the course of the week. It's back to social rather than need, which is good in a way (mostly mental). Gum is still my best friend, though not as often. Yay.
Eating was all good until some events this week. Mom's birthday, they picked a place where I really dislike the food except this one chicken dish...which is not good for you, but... and it was Mom's birthday so I didn't want to be difficult. Stuff like that, but overall good.
Not a lot going in my head this week, but trying to remind myself that I'm overall doing okay with my goals and I need to remember that instead of focusing on incomplete success. My moods have been horrible up and down a lot lately so must focus on positive while my mind allows it.
Pinata apples. New apple we found at the market. DELICIOUS... I keep saying this, but that's because we've had tons of apple choices lately, have bought and compared, and realized that some apples really are better than others, and not just based on the classic red, yellow, green varieties. Used to love Braeburn, but Pinata are my new fave (when they are on sale, of course. My taste buds still come in second to my frugal-ness.)
Eating was all good until some events this week. Mom's birthday, they picked a place where I really dislike the food except this one chicken dish...which is not good for you, but... and it was Mom's birthday so I didn't want to be difficult. Stuff like that, but overall good.
Not a lot going in my head this week, but trying to remind myself that I'm overall doing okay with my goals and I need to remember that instead of focusing on incomplete success. My moods have been horrible up and down a lot lately so must focus on positive while my mind allows it.
Pinata apples. New apple we found at the market. DELICIOUS... I keep saying this, but that's because we've had tons of apple choices lately, have bought and compared, and realized that some apples really are better than others, and not just based on the classic red, yellow, green varieties. Used to love Braeburn, but Pinata are my new fave (when they are on sale, of course. My taste buds still come in second to my frugal-ness.)
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