Getting Started

I know it seems a little nuts to put something about getting started as the 30th post and nearly 2 months into the blog. These moments have passed for me, so I don't think about them as much. It is important, though, to get off to a solid start - to take a moment and think about what you are doing.

1. Record.
Begin by NOT changing. For at least a week (not more than two, I should think) continue to eat and exercise normally. Grab a small notebook that you can keep with you and make sure you have a pen. I recommend dividing it into three sections.
Section A is what you eat. Record everything. "If you bite it, write it" is the phrase I've heard. Picking a french fry off your kid's plate should be noted. Calculate calories of these foods to the best of your ability. Most nutritional guides can be found online, but don't look them up until after you have eaten out because it can affect your eating habits whether it's out of guilt or more of a subconscious reaction.
Section B is where you record your activities. Make sure to note what the activity is and the time it takes you to complete it. Note things like resistance (weights in weight training) or distance (walking, biking).
Section C should be dedicated to notes. You can put anything you like: how you feel on a given day, what your goals might be, how you feel about weight loss, what psychological hindrances you think may have helped you get to the weight you are, ANYTHING. You should examine things like why you want to lose weight and what is going through your mind. I find these things help me sort out the truths in my mind even though I may not be ready to face some of them until much further along.

I did something similar to this when I started losing weight at Curves several years ago. Although I only lost 30 lbs over the course of 18 months, I did find that I learned a lot about myself. I wish I had done it again before starting this time because I find myself thinking back and wondering about the differences. Things are working this time so I suppose the notebook isn't necessary, but what's the harm? You'll know your before and after without having to wonder.

2. Goals.
We don't believe in end result goals, per se. When you are as overweight as we, smaller goals are more realistic and visible. Saying that we will be in the ideal weight for our height is intimidating as well as unrealistic. Scott's first goal was to get down to the weight he was when we got married in 1997. For me, I didn't even like having goals at all. They just add stress when it doesn't happen as fast as I want and I go a little crazy if the scale moves up just one pound when I have goals. My goal was to generally be declining instead of increasing. I suppose I still made tiny goals once in a while. If the scale started reading 287-288, I would tell myself that I did not want to see 29+ again. Right now I have just dipped below 238 so I do no wish to see anything over 240 when I get on the scale.

The point is, you have to know yourself and what works for you. Do you need to see where the end will be in order to reach it? Do you prefer to just see results? Try to figure that out before you go in, but be flexible if you find it's not working for you.

3. Resources.
I found Spark People to be a great resource, but I also learned quickly that these group activities don't work for me. I joined, but it was a few months later before I used the tools. I found out how to calculate the mileage of walks in my neighborhood. I hunted down videos to help with strength training and super short workouts for when I just wanted to add a little 10 minute activity to my regularly scheduled exercise. There are recipes and calorie counting guides in easy to use, convenient trackers. I used it faithfully for a month. I didn't lose a single pound the entire month. I don't know why, can't explain. I found articles of motivation and short pieces about how to overcome plateaus. I used everything I could imagine and still stayed in the same place. I didn't relate it to the webpage at first because I could see awesome graphs showing how well I was eating and nifty charts to show that I exercised even more than I had before using it. Surely it couldn't be that. Well, at one point I decided to take a break from tracking for a week and see if it made a difference. I immediately started losing weight again.

Group weight loss isn't for everyone, but I still might recommend signing up on of these pages. I still go there occasionally to update my weight and measurements, but mainly to look things up when I need them. A new workout can be useful at times and when we try a new walk, I like to record it so that I know the distance. It's useful to have a go-to webpage for the bulk of weight-loss research.

4. Ready, Set, Go.
Now that you've got the tools, goals, and recent activity to lean on, it's time to start the actual plan of attack. Yes, we are doing this to be healthy, but let's face it, weight loss is an important part of that. Make sure you are mentally ready to commit to these new goals and to the changes you will have to make. I took a while to get started last summer for various reasons. I liked my life, felt okay, and had no medical scares. I compared myself to my husband and had deluded myself into this weird thought process. "He's eating a big huge burger with beef, pastrami, and sauces spilling out. He's downing the largest french fries available. I'm eating this little gyro which is leaner meat, yogurt sauce, and a type of flat bread. On the side, though fried, what's underneath is mushrooms or zucchini. I'm eating healthier." "Well, he gets winded coming up stairs. I get out and walk once in a while. I'm exercising more. I must be healthier."

Healthier, my friends, is not the same as healthy. It took me quite some time to figure that out.

When he had his medical scares and decided it was time to do something about it, we walked together. It took him a few months just to get up to the speed I walked normally. It was actually hard for me to walk that slow! At first I changed some eating habits a little, but I hadn't quite started counting calories.

Suddenly, he started melting and I lost all of 5 pounds. We started buying foods based on his diet and the supplies of chips, sweets, and other junk in the house began to dwindle. His walking speed increased and, with a Disneyland trip I had planned coming quickly, we increased our distance as well so we would be sure to be ready. NOW I was ready to jump into the pool instead of just dangling my toes.

For some, you can just begin and start changing your life immediately. For the ones like me who need more time to adjust, I recommend the following steps:

A. Cut out obvious junk foods.
If you like to sit with half a bag of oreos dunking them in milk while watching a movie, try taking just the serving size and making the milk a little smaller. If you like to relax after work with a bag of chips and a container of dip, try taking a handful of chips and putting them in a bowl - leave the bag in the kitchen - and make that yogurt dip I've mentioned or scoop out just a tablespoon or two and leave the rest in the fridge. I liked to buy candy bars from time to time and eat 1-2 in a sitting. I stopped buying them and instead opted for a bite sized one from other people's houses (with Halloween coming up, everyone was offering). Examine those especially bad eating habits and cut them out or, at least, cut them down to one serving size per day.

B. Change activity level.
If you go walking once a week, add in a second day. If you go three times a week, try doing yoga, lifting weights, or just jogging during in place during your favorite show on television. We started by going for a 1/2 mile walk, but we did it every day. At first it took over 30 minutes. By the time Scott was up to speed, it was down to 20. Now we can do 1 mile in 20 minutes, though our goal is to go at least 1.5 -2 miles at least 3 times a week.

C. Still not ready to jump in the hole?
If you still feel you have room to improve before taking on the full challenge, I would next recommend cutting visits to restaurants and fast food joints by half. When you go, never order fries; opt for any fruit or vegetables they might offer like broccoli, apples, etc. Also, look for ways to burn extra calories; walk into the bank instead of using drive-through. Save the money and go into a grocery store to buy soda instead of buying the overpriced smaller ones at the gas station. When you crave something at home, jump up and get it instead of thinking about it, putting it off, or saving it as an activity to do several things at once.

D. Jump in!
Do the above for a week or two, then start counting your calories. If it helps, write what you eat. Make sure you are cutting at least 20% off the calories you ate during that first week of recording. Increase your activity double if possible. If you are as large as we, it was recommended we eat 2200-2500 calories (more for Scott). Had we done that, over the course of weight loss we could continue to cut our calories along the road and maintain slow weight loss. It's probably the healthiest route. The problem is that years ago when I recorded calories, I found I only ate 2000-2250. I had messed up my metabolism in such a way that my body could not burn a normal diet. By doing this diet at 1200 calories and being much more careful to eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner (though I still lapse. Yesterday I ate a small breakfast and forgot to eat again until 9 pm) I seem to have fixed my metabolism. It functions the way doctors and nutritionists say it should function now (YAY!) That's another plus. Scott wanted to go 1200-1500 because he felt he needed that strict discipline or he would cheat. The problem this causes, of course, is saggy skin as well as the fact that we're both slowing down a little on sending those pounds on their journey to Canada or wherever weight goes when it isn't on my ass. I've got tricks around that, though, and tricks around plateaus which I will detail another day.

So, make sure you're ready to commit to yourself. You can go to weight watchers, join online groups, or just tell all your friends you want to lose weight, but it's you that needs the commitment. Talking out loud solidifies that process, I've heard, but I think talking about it is more about being mentally ready than it is about making it known so you have to answer to someone. Your friends will love you no matter what and you know that so it's not much of a promise if you make it to them. Unfortunately, you will always know when you've cheated yourself (too bad you can't hide the candy bars from yourself, eh!?) so it's got to be internal for it to really work.

Best of luck. If, like me, you think of all these things AFTER you've started dieting, it's not too late. You can still take a moment to record goals and write journal entries about why you may have gained weight or why you want to lose it. Start thinking about other activities you may want to add in order to stave off boredom. Ask yourself tough questions, but don't answer them for a few weeks. You might surprise yourself.